Ahh, the ménage-à-trois, many have fantasized, but far less have enjoyed the pleasure that an extra partner can bring to the table. And that’s a shame, because threesomes can be wonderful! But they can also be a mess.. so let us share some simple tips, recommendations and precautions with you. We want your threesome experience to be a pleasurable one for all parties involved.

First Things First

Our guide’s suggestions are going to vary depending on if you are part of a couple or a single. There are more precautions for couples to take, obviously, since their relationship could very well be put in jeopardy. So with that being said, we are going to focus on the idea of a couple adding in a third, since the rules and precautions pertain most to them.

The truth is, if you’re a single, there aren’t many threesome rules at all. Just do your best to find partners that are looking for the same no-strings-attached-fun that you are, and enjoy yourself! And even as a single, communication is important. Always be honest with yourself and your chosen partners about how your feeling.

Also, remember that there are different threesome configurations. We’re going to focus on two women and one man, or two men and one woman. Still, three women, and three men, are other possible threesome scenarios. Plus the interactions in these configurations can vary as well. When it comes to the power of three, there are endless possibilities for your pleasure!

Let’s Talk About It

While many couples may fantasize about the addition of a third party when it comes to sex, most of them are afraid to actually take the plunge. This fear may not be without reason. The main reason a threesome can end up causing a serious rift in a relationship is because it wasn’t discussed honestly to begin with.

If one partner is feeling pressured into the threesome, there’s a pretty good chance that things will go south. Honesty after the threesome is important too. Partners will often lie about their feelings to protect themselves or their significant other, but these lies can cause more harm than good. It is completely normal to have feelings of jealousy and insecurity, and these feelings need to be discussed not disguised.

Don’t let these things scare you though, a threesome can certainly be a great experience! It is just very important that both you and your partner are on the same page. The bottom line is: If the idea of the threesome isn’t something that both partners are truly secure with, then it should never happen. Period.

However, if the idea of a threesome gets both of you all hot and bothered, by all means please proceed!

Make Some Rules

Okay, okay.. I know you’re waiting for us to get to the sexier stuff, but rules are important! Having limits and rules in place is an easy and important way to make sure things go smoothly. For example, you may decide that you only want your partner to climax with you, or maybe certain acts will be strictly off limits. These things all need to be decided ahead of time, or it will lead to arguments later.

Never — under any circumstances — break the rules that you’ve set in the heat of the moment! While you can certainly change the rules for the next time around, that should be done when you and your partner can discuss things with clear heads.

Fantasize First

We’ve  said it before, and we will say it again — threesomes can be messy! Jumping right in can have nasty repercussions. It’s a good idea to play around with the fantasy verbally first. Plus, it prolongs the erotic fun! You’ll only have your first threesome together once. Make it as special as possible.

Next time you’re getting hot and heavy with your partner, ask him/her what they would do if there was another man/woman in bed with you two. Describe to each other how you would want that third to add to your experience together.

Then afterwards, discuss it with your partner. How did the idea of a third person feel? What emotions did it bring up? Was the sex hotter than usual? Some couples find that just fantasizing about a third increases their pleasure, and many decided to stop there. You may discover that just the very fantasy of a threesome can be enough. Or you may decide together that having a threesome is something you can’t wait to persue! In which case, we now get to the trickiest part..

Finding Your Unicorn

Now that you and your partner have discussed it, made rules, and mutually fantasized about it — it’s time to find yourselves a third! Our number one recommendation is not to choose someone either of you already knows well. Having a threesome with a friend almost always causes problems.

If you’re thinking about find a male to complete your trio, you probably won’t have too much difficulty seeking someone out. However, if you’re looking for a lovely lady, you may have to pound the pavement a bit harder.

If you live in an area where there are swingers clubs, they could be an ideal place to meet someone looking to join the two of you for some fun. The internet is also a great place to find someone. Our very own Sexlog is on the way to help you find the perfect friend to explore with!

Once you’ve found someone who’s looking to play! It’s time for — that’s right — more talking! We’re sorry, this really is the last time though — we promise!

Now you have to discuss limits and expectations with your latest addition. Let him or her know what the two of you are hoping for, and ask what they want as well. The idea of a threesome is for all of you to have amazing sex together. Being selfish as an individual — or as a couple, is not the way to go.

Getting It On

Yes, you are finally ready and it’s time for some action! Remember not to be selfish, all three of you should be involved at all times. Keep your hands busy, and help each other reach climax. Men should try their best to prolong their climax. If the threesome involves two women — this can be extremely exciting and hard to do, but try your best!

Also, try your best to put a little more focus on your partner — without ever excluding the other person. No one should feel left out, but you also don’t want your partner to feel like you’re more interested in your newfound friend either.

If you’ve followed our advice, all three of you should be in for an awesome experience. Let loose, follow the rules you’ve made, and have some unforgettable sex! You’ll be amazed by the pleasure a couple of extra hands can add!

Have you ever had a threesome? How did it go? Leave your comments and any advice below!