There are always plenty of single men that are interested in swinging. Since you’re reading this, there’s a good chance that you’re one of them! This abundance of curious men, can make being successful as a swinger a difficult and daunting task. Not only are single men at the very bottom of the swinger hierarchy, but they often get a bad reputation thanks to a few bad apples.

But fear not! Your friends here at Sexlog have got you covered! Here are some simple tips that can give you the leading edge over your competition:

Study Up

If you are new to the lifestyle you should make a genuine effort to learn as much as you possibly can. There are plenty of resources, just like this, on the internet that will help you learn the do’s and don’ts of the lifestyle.

The fact that you’re making the effort to read this post is already a great sign! Remember that not ALL rules are written in stone. If going to an event or club – things allowed at one place might not be allowed at other. When in doubt call and ask if you have any questions.

Dress to Impress

Remember that you’re at the club to meet people, and you want to make a good first impression. Dress as if you would if you are going on a date. Leave the gym clothes for the gym, and choose something flattering and stylish instead.

Mr. Clean

Good hygiene and grooming are extremely important. Simple things like trimming your nails and shaving your beard can make a huge difference. Also, always brush your teeth and use mouth wash. No matter how attractive you may be, bad breath is an instant turn off!

Be Genuine (and Honest)

Be natural and socialize! Leave your macho attitude and any expectations at the door. Simply being polite is one of the most important things a single guy can do. Don’t bother with cheesy pick up lines, or any pick up lines for that matter – they simply do not work. Better to be shot down for being you, then for being someone else!

Honesty is also important. The swinger lifestyle is not about drama. So if you say you’re a single man, you had better be a single man! Attempting to use swinging as a way to secretly cheat on your spouse is a big no no. Swingers tend to form pretty tight-knit groups, so once you’re caught, you’ll likely be blacklisted from the community altogether.

Address a Couple as a Couple

When approaching a couple many single men make the mistake of only addressing the woman. You should actually be doing just the opposite! Either address the man first or address them as a couple. This also means that you shouldn’t rush to address the woman as soon as her husband isn’t present. Sooner or later he will return, and chances are you’ve already started off on the wrong foot.

The only time you should be addressing a woman individually, is if she is there as a single woman.

Choose Your Words Wisely

Even compliments could be interpreted the wrong way, so you should always watch what you say. For example telling a guy that “he is lucky to have such a beautiful woman” could make him feel insecure, and while meant as a compliment to the female even she might think it disrespectful to her date.

Remember not to say anything negative. The old adage, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all,” still holds true. As we mentioned earlier, many people in the lifestyle know each other, so talking badly about someone is an easy way to make yourself an outcast.

Never Be Pushy

Not everyone is going to respond to you, sometimes you just have to move on. While being persistent might work at a non-lifestyle event or club, it works against you when it comes to swinging. In fact pushy behavior can get you kicked out and banned from most events.

You also should also avoid asking to have sex. Everyone knows why they are there, and the fact that you’ve approached a couple let’s them know that you are interested. Wait for them to ask you!

BYOB, but Know Your Limits

If the club allows you to bring alcohol, always bring something, even if you don’t drink! Bringing a bottle of vodka allows you to offer drinks to others, and it’s a great way to break the ice. Plus, it is very unattractive when a single guy tries to get drinks from others.

On the other hand, you should monitor your alcohol intake and make sure you don’t drink too much. Know your limits. Having a drink or two can be a great way to get more comfortable, but no one wants to talk to the guy who’s making a fool of himself or worse throwing up all over the place!

Get Out There

Now that you’ve got some good advice, it’s time to get out there and meet other swingers! Search for local events and swingers clubs where you can meet and mingle with other curious couples and singles. You’ll also want to sign up on some websites to help connect with possible play partners online as well.

Good luck, and don’t forget to sign up right here on Sexlog! We will be keeping you updated with lifestyle advice, and soon we will be connecting you with sexy play partners nearby!